Loving your self takes a lot of letting go, the concepts and conditioning that you grew up with, the thoughts and voices in your head that tells you “you’re not good enough”. These are illusions that we hang unto in our daily lives that if we are not aware are blockages to our living in the moment. We are listening to our thoughts and not connecting to our heart’s desires. When we are listening to our heart’s desires that means we are living in the moment because truly this is the only time that we have and nothing at all. The future is not here and the past is gone. This is what matters most, this time that we have right now.

I find in my journey when people come to me for advice they actually didn’t come for me to talk but to listen to their stories. When I stay with them in the moment I  listen and give back to them what I hear and then they confirm to their own selves if it’s not true or these are illusions of their ego. They seem to unveil the truth when they hear their story from another person just like a mirror of your own self. Reflecting back to you what’s missing but truly there is nothing missing if you know the true essence of your self. The joy of knowing this is the wisdom that everyone is searching for. The answer is within you everyting that you needed is YOU! When you find this, there will be a total change in your perception suddenly everything makes sense, there is unity in your surroundings, you become a part of the totality of the Universe. Each individual that you meet become a part of your soul you are one with the spirit. The aspect of your self that you disown becomes you and the embracing of this perception is the freedom of this duality. There is no separation but you are one with the shadow and light of your self.

The people that come to your life will simply reflect to you who you are and what you are about. They become your mirror and the relationships that you build around you will be full of love and joy. The sufferings of others doesn’t touch you in the same way that they did, you become one with them but not take it personally because you know deep inside that you are not about sufferring but this is one of the dark shadow that others are still dealing with. You become the total witness of this field and your consciouness is your essence which will show you the meaning of life. There is no more questions but only answers because you are in total silence, you are the silence, the witness to everything. The drama is gone but the script of your life is given to you to be the director and the producer which will guide you in every moment of your life. Your breath takes prominence and every breath you take is but a miracle of who you are right now in this beautiful life that you partake with ONENESS.

What blocked the victims from healing? The most interesting blockage that I found with victims that prevent them from healing is not being aware of their participation in the game that their own voices in the head continually tells them. They identify with the perpetrator’s tresspasses and not knowing that they are still stuck in this play, when they don’t allow healing until they see the truth. They become attached to the past and they don’t seem to let go of the memory and beliefs that they are still suffering. This prevent them from living in the moment because they again attract the same abusive attack in another form of drama in their reality.

The Universe has some way of giving us situations all over again until we finally get the lesson. The wisdom arises only when they become aware that the memory is only in their head and pain body. The voices that keep telling them that they are not good enough are not to be indentified with, but be dismissed with conscious awareness. This keeps them from being a victim and get stuck on  blaming the other person. I guess this is an easy way out not to face their fear. A way out not to change or transform their lives.

From a victim’s point of view, they see the world as an enemy because of the conditioning or abuse that they experienced. To be empowered you have to see beyond the pain of the past and see the bigger picture. Beyond form or drama that occurred in your life is the underlying truth that is waiting to be discover. Which is going to be your freedom from being a vicitm of life’s circumstances. Before we incarnate here or materialize on earth, we came from nothing which is the unseen spirit world. There we made our sacred contracts as to what our souls want to learn here. In someone’s drama, the perpetrator or the villain is actually a blessing in disguise or your sacred contract to become who you are and what lessons you want to experience in this lifetime. Once you can see beyond the pain, you will find the freedom in knowing that everything was just perfect, coming from the bigger picture you suddenly realized that without the enemy there will be no victory. The empowered only become who he is when his strength and faith is put to test. This is all but a play that we are the actors of this so called life. We are also the creators of this drama.

When you disown yourself you are fragmented and you see yourself separate from others. Your filter of perception is distorted and feels that everyone is here to attack you. You are projecting your own deepest fears and negative thoughts. To be aware is to know what you are thinking in the present moment. Ask yourself “where are my thoughts right now?” Then you will be in touch to the energy that you are projecting as you know that what you think is what you project externally. You will be able to connect why things happen the way they are. To be aware that everything that’s in your field is what you magnetized. The main attractor is you and your thoughts so the secret in healing the “victims mentality” is being aware of the voices in your head and say to yourself this too shall pass and everything will be fine. I am loved!

Today I found myself in a space of simplicity, where there is no chaos, but in total silence . The world of silence brings joy to my heart. It shuts down the noises in my head. I love this feeling and I feel that there is only love and no fear will try to cloud my clear mind. It’s quite amazing how I’ve reached this enlightenment, it took 45 yrs of my life to self realized that all through the years I was searching for answers that were all hidden within me. My spirit is the eye of my experiences, knowing this I make sure that my mind’s eye will not be the CEO of my life and the creator of my experiences. My heart will dictate what is real and what is ego.

I’m keeping my life simple enjoying little moments here and there. The people that are in my path are gifts to teach me on what is love. I honor their presence and continue to serve with unconditional love. My filter which is my eyes are now clean and it’s like a clean slate which only sees goodness and kindness. The things that are not wonderful, the negative behaviors of others are only seen as signs of fear and are actually signs of HELP asking for light. This is what changed in my perception, that I am here as an observer and to be a participant that will bring only love and not fear. This wisdom is only going to be actualized when there is shadow, the light will bring this into unity. The separation that people experiences are but illusions and mirrors of what they have inside themselves. A good indicator would be, is when you find yourself in a company of a negative person. This is a red flag to tell you that it’s one of your shadows. Reflect and love that aspect of yourself to bring completion and you find that the separation or judgement that you feel for the other person dissipates.

Life is simple we just make it complicated. When you find yourself in a circle of negative situations, you’ll realized that you are the magnet of these things. Your thoughts are the filter of your realities. Be aware and connect to your spirit by silencing the mind. Keep it simple, be at peace with yourself and the world will be at peace with you. The things that we bombarded ourselves to keep us busy are the masks that we wear. It doesn’t help a bit but it only keep us away from the truth. We are not here to do loads of work but to be who we are love and nothing else. When you love your work you are in the right path, whatever that work is, you find meaning to what you do and that’s what it is. Life is simple, live happy and content. You don’t need things to complete you but relationships and time you spend with others are what’s important. Live simply.

The emotions are our guide to go within our selves and reflect on what they are trying to tell us. When we are in the middle of a conflict, we become aware of the emotions that are involve and the best way to deflect the negative effects of these negative energy to us is to be silent, stop and reflect. Ask your self why you are reacting this way and what is the lesson beyond this emotion? We get caught up in this cycle of drama that we forgot that we created this in our external reality because somehow there is a part of us that called for this.

To learn and know what is lying behind this emotion we need to catch our selves from reacting and instead pay attention to why we are here? Be present in the moment and ask questions to know the deepest answers to our soul and heart’s desires. We become reactors instead of empowered people when we allow our emotions and reactions rule our world. We are empowered when we reflect and go deep inside our selves to find the meaning of these circumstances in our lives. We forget that there is a space that we can take in the midst of conflicts and that we have the power to choose this space in our lives. Be conscious of this space and connect through this by being conscious of our BREATHE. When we become aware of our breathe we feel that we are safe that we don’t need to control any situations that we felt threatened. But know that in this space we are loved and free from fear.

When we are participators in the drama we become involved and sometimes detached to our own truth which is that we are one. So if you are involve in a drama ask yourself why you are in this group of souls? What is it in your energy field that called this for and what is your personal lesson to reveal by participating in this kind of events?

We find ourselves in the EGO MIND that we are better than who they are and that we are here to save their souls. First things first, you are not here to save anyone, you are here to bring light first to yourself then to the world. If you find that you are not about love and light, then the work is to start with your own self. The people around you are there to teach you about acceptance, allowing the negative energy of this soul group then realizing that you are part of this consciousness. When you are aware of your presence then you become an observer that you don’t need to judge them but allow them to be who they are and be a space of love and safety. They are sometimes lost because of people who judges them and all they need is to be loved just like the rest of humanity.

Then you discover that they are all like you, the only difference is that you are conscious now or awake and the rest is still asleep. Knowing this you will see how your presence will become a light to their lost memory of who they truly are. You don’t even need to speak because your actions speak louder than your words. Your sweetness, child like nature, becomes very clear identification that you had found the truth and essence of who you are.

The unified consciousness begun when your self identifies with the rest of humanity and the negative energy in your external reality. When you become united with your own shadow and light attributes in your self. When you unite with your self, ego, mind, body and spirit then recognizing these in others when they are still in the dark, becomes a gift to your self and others that this time you can give the gift of awakened soul. The wisdom is existing in this chaotic world in the knowing that you are a being of light to your self and others in their journey.